I'm a friend of Bubbles, one of the unstoppable forces of seduction and intelligence behind the sexworker blog site, Tits and Sass. I'm half in awe and half in love and more than a little scared by Bubbles, particularly her hipster cred and music nerd chops. An added bonus to our relationship is the ability to drop phrases like "as my friend Bubbles said" into conversation; however piquant that may be, the actual friendship is far more meaningful and rewarding.
Bubbles asked me to contribute a piece or two to Tits and Sass, and my first one, "Shaking Tail and Spinning Tales, From Shaking It to Spinning Them," is up today. The piece explores the intersection of stripping and writing erotica. Here's an excerpt:
Strippers and erotica writers choose to write under names not only because they fear personal and professional reprisals—sex is a dangerous business, even if you’re just depicting it in words; you don’t even need to airfuck for cash to make sex dangerous; never mind the zip code, just living in the Congressional district of sex is dangerous and implicating—but because the fantasy of being someone else isn’t just for the audience. In some way, it’s there for you as the stripper or the writer too. I call this “The Sasha Fierce Effect.”
Beyoncé created her alternate wild-girl persona Sasha Fierce in order to do the stuff on stage that she as Beyoncé wasn’t entirely comfortable doing. If, like a person with multiple personality disorder, you fracture your self into discrete (and ideally discreet) units, you might find you can deal with the perceived dangers of that freakish enterprise.
Go here to read the rest. It's free. While you're at it, take some time to read the site's coverage of the Ashton Kutcher/Village Voice sex-trafficking "Real Men Don't Pay for Sex" kerfuffle. Both sides could gain from reading what Tits and Sass have posted, frankly.
In my post, I namedrop a series of posts that I've written here (as well as a couple of Penthouse articles, stories for anthologies and the like). For those readers who might like to read those posts, I thought I'd give some links. Here they are, in order:
The one about the time my boyfriend bound me, blindfolded me, and made me come like a yowling banshee.
The one about the time I had the world's fasted threesome.
The one about the time I was the girlmeat in the boy sandwich.
The one about the time I fucked a clown.
The one about the times I gave head. Really, there's a lot of head giving.
The one about the time I first squirted.
The one about the time I admitted my ambivalence over nipple clamps.
And if that's not enough, here's the whole smut enchilada, and here are the oral parts and the anal parts. It's like Freud's stages, but without the shaming or the cigars. And finally, here are all my strip tales, starting at the beginning. Because as long as we're talking about tits and sass, we might as well go full circle.
Ps. I also write about a lot of stuff that has little if anything to do with sex. Because there's also rock 'n roll, zombies and Buffy.




i don't mean to be rude, but i couldn't help noticing the "typo" "smarter than the average bare" and i was wondering if you meant bear, or if you are playing with words here, as you are connected with the stripping industry.
since you write well, i'm assuming it's the latter; but i am curious!
Posted by: Satan | 07 July 2011 at 05:39 PM
Oh, Satan, you are so droll. I've always loved that about you.
kissykiss,
chelsea g.
Posted by: chelsea g. | 09 July 2011 at 09:11 AM
Much Love :)
Posted by: RickStar | 24 July 2011 at 05:27 PM