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I wrote this piece a couple of years ago to honor my loss of my first dog, the legendary Spencer. I've reposted it here because try as I might, I don't think I could write anything more beautiful and right.
Three years ago on 3 July 2003, I euthanized my dog, the Legendary Spencer. I quail a bit at the word "euthanize"; I find my chest contracts at it. It's an ugly word. To my mind, though, the euphemisms are worse: put down like an insult or put to sleep like a child, as if there is a time when he, my furry eternal toddler, will rise again.
Three years ago Spencer and I took our last walk. I leashed him, and he looked at me with dying and hopeful eyes because he loved me and because he loved walks. He unquestioningly went with me; he stepped gingerly down the stairs of my apartment for the last time. For the last time, I watched him pee, him no longer able to lift his leg. For the last time, I saw him pause outside Bang! Bang! because one upon a time the store had been another store, a store that unfailingly had provided Spencer with biscuits, and he never, not even in his slightly addled dotage, forgot a place that gave him biscuits.
For the last time I took him for a walk and for the last time he trusted me.
He was, unquestionably, ready to die. His kidneys were failing, and his lung cancer had progressed to a point where he hacked and coughed often and with a painful rawness; just breathing, for him, was difficult. He had ceased to eat, even yummy treats like liverwurst. I had, a few weeks earlier, had him shaved for the summer, something I had never done before. I felt he was old and uncomfortable in the heat, so I had brought him, also for the last time, to the groomer's, which he hated.
I bid adieu to his beautiful caramel sundae hair, the first bits of him I said good-bye to; the rest would come later.
And so three years ago for the last time, I brought him to his vet's, where she put us in a quiet room and then injected him with some kind of preliminary downer, to get him to sleep before she gave him his lethal dose of whatever.
He wouldn't sleep there on the vet's floor. He couldn't. His body, dehydrated from his failing kidneys, and his mind, nervous from being at the vet's, wouldn't succumb to the soporific drugs. His eyes remained open and he remained restive. Finally, unable to wait any more, the vet just came in, and kindly and gently injected him with a series of shots. He died in my lap.
I held him and cried, and then I clipped tufts of his ear hair, which I have saved in a box. I also took ink prints of his left front paw on rice paper. (I would, about a week later, walk back to the vet's to pick up a white bakery box that read " Spencer, the loving pet of chelsea g. summers." It still contains his ashes, but now box and ashes reside in a creamy white marble mausoleum, lovingly made by a friend.)
I walked home from the vet's alone. Alone I spent that night and the next day, 4 July. The following day, I took the prints I had made of Spencer's paw after his death to a tattoo artist, and I had him tattoo me with Spencer's paw, his name and his dates on my right deltoid. It's not a very good tattoo—it wasn't my usual artist, and I knew I'd regret its ham-handed scarring depth—but I will never remove it.
I have lost friends, I have lost family members. I have never in my life felt the keening grief I felt over losing my dog. I sobbed with animal loss—deep, heaving, inarticulate moans of loss. I can't even write this today without tears. And I think that this grief is due to the fact that people have disappointed me. People have created conflict. People have given me qualified affection.
My dog never did. Sure, he made me angry. Once he ate the corner of my then-roommate Becky Sue's mattress. It was not a good day for either of us. But Spencer was always unequivocally happy to see me. His love for me was pure, and steady, and unqualified.
I was his God, he was my dog.
I remember in those first few weeks of insane grief, in those days when all I wanted, all I really wanted was to be with him, how I felt his fear of being removed from me, how I worried that no one would take care of him wherever he was, and how I had a dream. In my dream, he and I were out on a beautiful summer day, in a park that wasn't a park, and somehow we got separated.
I saw him across a wide expanse of very green grass and I called him, but he didn't come. He stood there, his long blonde and white hair rippling in the breeze as I called and called, and then he walked, his big Aussie butt twitching, away from me. In my dream, I remembered that he was deaf, that he couldn't hear me, but then I woke and I realized that he had left because he was dead. He was gone, and I could never call him back.
I don't have a religious background. I don't have a clear idea of an afterlife, of a heaven or a hell or even a reincarnation. However, in my hopes, if I live a good life, if I'm moral and take responsibility for my mistakes, if I treat my neighbor as myself, and apologize when I do not, then I shall at my life's end be reunited with Spencer.
In a perfect world, dogs like him would never die. In a perfect world, I would never have known this loss. But in a less perfect world, I console myself, I would never have known his love.
Spencer T. Jones 11/27/90-7/3/03
